Monday, August 8, 2011

Ten Things Women Need To Remember About Men

 I was just surfing the web, not looking for anything particular and found
this great list that I  want to share.
Now some of you out there might think these things are no- brainers,  but I have to say
that a few of them gave me " a lightbulb moment"  and  have really helped me to
understand my husband a little better.

I am a person who shows him my love with hugs and compliments, which is all fine and
good.... UNLESS you have the misguided opinion that HE shows his love in the same way.
 and will make you think... "Well if he isn't saying
or doing those things   ( quick hugs, compliments...etc)  that he must not be feeling them in his heart".
Which in most cases is just not true and can cause unnecessary and avoidable issues.

So here is a list of ten important things to remember
  1. Men say " I Love You" with actions
Some men prefer to express their feelings through actions rather than words. Your guy may say "I love you" by fixing things around the house, tidying up the yard, or even taking out the trash -- anything that makes your world a better place.
     2. Men Take Commitment Seriously

Men have a reputation for being afraid to commit. But the evidence suggests men take marriage seriously. They may take longer to commit because they want to make sure they are on-board for good. In a survey of currently married men, 90% say they would marry the same woman again.

     3. He Really Is Listening

When you're listening to someone talk, you probably pipe in with a "yes" or "I see" every now and then. It's your way of saying, "I'm listening." But some guys don't do this. Just because a man isn't saying anything doesn't mean he's not listening. He may prefer to listen quietly and think about what you're saying.

      4.   Shared Activities Form Bonds

This one includes more than just the obvious.... =)
Men strengthen their relationships primarily through shared activities more than by sharing thoughts or feelings. For many men, activities like sports  make them feel closer to their partner. So go ahead and let him see just how bad you are at basketball, it's not  about you pretending to love what he loves or posing as a great athlete but about sharing time doing something that HE loves.

       5.  Men Need Time for Themselves

While shared activities are important, men also need time for themselves. Whether your guy enjoys golf, gardening, or working out at the gym, encourage him to pursue his hobbies, while you make time for your own. When both partners have space to nurture their individuality, they have more to give to each other."

        6. Men Learn From Their Fathers

If you want to know how a man will act in a relationship, get to know his dad. Some say men learn about their relationship role by watching and listening to their fathers. How they are with each other and how the father relates to the mother can predict how a man will relate to his wife.

       7.  Men Let Go Faster Than Women

Women tend to remember negative experiences longer and may have lingering feelings of stress, anxiety, or sadness. In contrast, men are less likely to dwell on unpleasant events and tend to move on more quickly. So while you may still want to talk about last night's argument, your guy may have already forgotten about it.    So I'm thinking LET IT GO.... he did.

        8. Men Don't Pick Up on Subtle Cues

Men are more likely to miss subtle signals like tone of voice or facial expressions. And they are especially likely to miss sadness on a woman's face. If you want to make sure your guy gets the message, be direct.

        9. Men Respond to Appreciation

Showing appreciation for your guy can make a big difference in the way he acts. Take parenting. Studies show that fathers are more involved in care-giving when their wives value their involvement and see them as competent.

        10. Men May Stray When Needs Aren't Met

If a man doesn't feel loved and appreciated in his relationship, he may turn elsewhere for satisfaction. For one man, that may mean burying himself in work. Another may develop a fixation on sports or video games. And some men cheat. To avoid this, partners need to work together to meet each others needs.

Hope one or more of these will help you in the near future....  
Anyone have any other insightful things about men we don't know?   Please share !